What these questions are looking at
Each item describes something observable: a cancelled plan, a message checked twice, a decision postponed until someone else's mood is known. That is deliberate, because behaviour is easier to verify than a label.
The word codependency has no single clinical definition, and this is not an attempt to supply one. What the items share is a direction of attention: outward, continuously, toward how another person is doing.
Attention pointed outward is not a fault. It becomes costly when it runs without pause, so that your own preferences are only discoverable after someone else's have been settled.
Reading the score without turning it into a label
The total says how many of these behaviours are currently frequent. It does not say why. A partner's illness, a job loss or a new baby can raise the score for reasons that have nothing to do with a lasting pattern.
The individual answers carry more information than the sum. One person scores high entirely on the monitoring items; another scores high entirely on guilt. Those two situations call for quite different next steps.
Compare the result with a quieter period if you can remember one. A score that has climbed recently points to circumstances; a score that has been steady for years points to habit.
Small changes that tend to help
Make one small decision this week without checking how it lands first — what to eat, when to leave, which film to watch. The goal is not independence as a statement, but evidence that a preference of your own still exists.
When guilt arrives after doing something for yourself, note the time and what triggered it rather than arguing with it. Guilt that follows a predictable cue is easier to work with than guilt treated as a verdict.
Separate care from surveillance. Asking how someone is doing is care. Checking their location to infer how they are doing is a different activity, and it tends to raise anxiety rather than settle it.
A note on safety
If another person controls your movement, money, documents, or makes you fear for your safety, use local specialist and emergency support. A quiz is not a safety plan.
Thoughts of self-harm, or a sense that you cannot stay safe, are reasons to seek urgent help immediately. Educational pages and self-checks are not a substitute for that kind of care.
You can return to the questions later. What matters first is whether you have enough safety and support to think clearly at all.